Women sometimes list themselves in catalogs or magazines in order to be chosen by foreign men to get married. The woman would have to initially state that she is advertising herself as a wife. Most of the men that go for this are generally from a slightly more developed country that the one the woman resides in. In most cases, the women and men were from different countries for example the European women going for American men during the 18th – 19th centuries.
Here we have ten facts about this crazy tradition known as Mail Order Brides.
Dangers involved in being a mail order bride
Before you decide to become a mail-order bride or marry one, find out a bit more about why your future partner has chosen this way of finding their life partner. You could end up either being lucky and finding a man or woman that has to leave their home country for the reasons stated above or you might end up dead. There have been recent cases of American men killing off their brides as well as the brides killing off their husbands. One such case of murder by a husband who ordered his wife via mail-order, was the case of Anastasia King, who at 18 married a much older man and because they fought so often, he decided he wanted another bride and had her murdered by one of his tenants. Both of them were convicted in her case for murder.
How do the mail order bride and her future husband meet?
Meeting your bride to be takes place using two different International Marriage Agencies. The second of the two offers group tours in which men are allowed to travel to the foreign country and meet the women at arranged events. The first agency provides a way that is preferred by many using this tradition as it stipulates and allows men and women who are interested in one another to communicate before they meet. When the man applies using this method, he has to be screened and prvide the agency with all his mental health information as well as any criminal history that he may have. If he is then given the all clear by the agency, him and his future bride will meet before she is allowed to apply for her US visa.
Big Profits in “Mail-Order Brides” Industry
This industry has a large profitability where Taiwanese men spend up to $10 000 of which only $500-$1000 USD are given to the family of the bride. The rest is taken by the arrangers of the marriage on both the groom and the brides side. Most of the women sold in Taiwan come from Southeast Asia and especially Vietnam.
The promise of the sweet escape
Although to many it may seem as if Russian women are the “desperate for foreign men to have a better life” type, they are forced to look towards the American men as Russia has approximately only 8 men to every 10 women. That means that in this country where marriage plays a big part, most women are unable to find a partner.
Mail Order Husbands
Men in the Phillipines often advertise themselves on behalf of the women to contact men for marital puposes, instead of the woman doing it. They are particularly strict on this by creating the Anti-Mail-Order Bride law which protects the women after local news had reported stories of these wives being abused by their husbands.
Based on findings by USCIS (United States Citizenship and Immigration Services), it is noted that these mail-order marriages, have a lower divorce rate than that of the US as a whole. 4000-6000 of the marriages in the United States, between American men and foreign women, come from methods such as the mail-order system or even via email correspondence.
There are actually courses offered in this subject at universities in the US which is a curious occurrence and leads us to believe that this way of marriage has a bit of a following out in the world.
The resolution by the Australian Government to reduce the amount of women being brought into their country for all the wrong reasons, has been accepted widely by the public since the case of Jana Klintoukh, who was brought in via an internet marriage site to be held captive by her “husband” and used as his sex slave.
There are some companies that arrange these marriages for the wrong reasons. One such company was found guilty of negligence to their clients, lying about their services and fraud amongst other charges, for arranging the marriage of Nataliya to an American man with a long history of violent abuse on women. He abused her throughout their marriage until she left and sought out refuge at a women’s abuse shelter. She had no knowledge given to her by the company, that she could leave the marriage should she face abuse and she would not be deported. This company lied to it’s clients saying that they did test the compatibility of the males and check their history when in actual fact they did not.
In the mid-1800s, this concept was used by men moving from their homes in the East to the West to find some form of success in farming and business establishment. Because of the lack of women in the West, these men wrote home to the churches, magazines and newspapers requesting knowledge of women who may be interested in becoming their wives. The interested women would then reply to these and send pictures of themselves.